Lori (see link below) has set up a book tour and it's a book that I'm nervous about reading. Unbelievably nervous. In fact, I've been avoiding this book ever since I found it on my quest to find information about adoption. I tried reading "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" and I got about halfway before I had to put it down because I freaked out. That was at least 6 months ago and there it sits on my bookshelf with the bookmark in the same spot. As an adoptive parent I think we always want to have sunshine blown up our behinds because it's so difficult emotionally anyway. To force yourself to explore potential issues that may bring up your own problems adds another emotionally draining straw to the pile. I think I need to explore these issues anyway because of my own experiences. I just don't want to.
So, as I prepare to delve into this book (then pass it on to S) it's with a big heaping ton of trepidation. But, we want to go into this eyes wide open.
http://www.examiner.com/x-13701-Open-Adoption-Examiner~y2009m10d18-Book-Tour-The-Primal-Wound-by-Nancy-Verrier?#comments
De-lurking to say I have the same trepidation but I will read it too. I think it's good to confront the worst (which it seems to me this book is, with the obvious disclaimer that I haven't read it yet and my characterization is based on bad reviews done by people I don't know). BTW we are on the list at Adoption Options too - came in a little after DenverJen and are now up to #10. Feel free to ask Anna for my contact info. if you want to meet IRL.
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Good luck. I'm nervous for you from your description. But good for you for really delving into a scary topic. You'll be a wonderful mommy.
ReplyDeleteIt's a really tough book for parents (adoptive- or birth-) to read. But I'm so glad you (and Lane) are joining in. WHen I read 20 Things, I kept thinking, "yeah, but that's for CLOSED adoptions."
ReplyDeleteI wonder how much openness can mitigate.